Ha! Go figure...

It's been a whole minute (maybe) and I've already thought about what I want to talk about...

My boyfriend and I today were talking about social mannerisms... I am under the impression that the majority of things people do are very self-serving. Not so much because of how I view others, but because of how things work for me, essentially.

Now I'm not saying that I am not generally a kind person, or that I don't even bother trying to be. I believe that everyone deserves respect, and I'm generally a very moral person. But I don't understand why total strangers feel the need to ask "how are you doing?". They simply cannot care how I'm doing if they don't know me... not genuinely. Are they doing it so I think they are nice? ...so I might feel good that they did it? Regardless, if they do not know me, though it may not be a conscious effort, doesn't it eventually just amount to "I feel good about myself for being nice to that person today", in the back of their minds... they must get some sort of gratification out of doing so.

I love kids... kids are so honest and straight to the point the majority of the time. At the store the other day, I had both of my wrist splints on, and we came across a lady and her daughter. The lady just kind of looks at me with this "it would not be polite to say anything about them, so I'm just gonna gawk instead" type of look. I never understood why people do that either... anyway, the little girl walks up and blurts out "why are those on your arms?"

Now, I hear a lot of parents when questions like this are brought up, start ranting about how it's not appropriate and you might make someone feel bad, etc. This is exactly why we have bullies. If we are taught that asking questions and trying to understand things is a bad thing, then eventually the people themselves are associated with being a bad thing.

The mother said nothing, and I proceeded with a longwinded explanation of what they were for, what I have that causes me to need them, explanations as to what medications can help if it is needed... etc. As the questions went on, THAT made me feel good. No smile or anything can make me feel better than being able to answer a question as to why I am different, and feel that a child may have gained some understanding about things so they will not be as standoffish as the parents, or so that they may not become a bully, because they are willing to ask questions and gain understanding about those who are different.

So... did I even tie that second part to the question? I'm not exactly sure... did I talk in circles? You tell me. I can never tell when I'm repetitive or when I'm not being clear, lol.